The war on fatherhood in South Carolina, by Keith Pounds, MBA

Keith Pounds

The war on fatherhood in South Carolina

Keith Pounds, MBA

South Carolina Fathers Initiative

Keith.Pounds@alumni.aiuonline.edu

January 21, 2011

(A work in progress)

This paper addresses current views and perspectives on the issue of “deadbeat dads” in South Carolina. It offers empirical data showing that fathers are not “abandoning,” or walking away from, their children and shows that the “footprints” are most often facing in the other direction. This paper suggests that mother interference in child-father visitation and anti-male bias in the family court system are two prominent factors in the creation of the “deadbeat dad” phenomenon. This paper shows that the absence of fathers is directly responsible for devastating effects on our nation’s youths leading to elevated levels of low school performance, high dropout rates, crime, truancy, delinquency, alcohol and drug abuse, and a host of other social ills. In conclusion, this paper strongly supports a re-address of our current views on the importance of child-father relationships and a presumption of truly equitable “Shared Parenting” in all child custody and support legal cases.

According to popular wisdom, far too many men abandon their families (physically and financially) leaving women and children devastated and overwhelmed. This wisdom suggests that government assistance is required for custodial parents (most often mothers) in the form of elevated child support, housing, food stamps, and other social services to make up for father absence. In addition, it is most often assumed that mothers are better caretakers of children than are fathers. Family Courts are prone to grant child custody to mothers, over fathers.

While many fathers are burdened with child support payments, they are very often simultaneously denied child visitation by the mother of their children. As a result, many children are reared with little or no contact with their father. Overwhelming research shows that children deprived of very important child-father relationships and bonding have disproportionately high rates of truancy, criminal activity, alcohol and drug use, poor school performance and high dropout rates. The research examined in this paper strongly suggests that in order to adequately address the myriad of social ills in today’s society it is imperative that mothers and family courts understand that one of the most important factors in successful child development is “fathers.”

As a methodology, this research examined empirical studies showing the relationships between never-married, as well as separating and divorced, mothers and fathers to discover common relationships between the two parties. In particular, this research examined to what extent fathers actually pay court-ordered child support to mothers, and to what extent mothers actually support and encourage court-ordered child visitation with the fathers. At the same time, this paper reviews currently available research to examine the effects of child development in the absence of fathers. Finally, this paper offers recommendations for mothers, the family court system and legislative bodies.

Family Courts, Social Services and Child Protective Services

In the State of South Carolina, the Child Support Enforcement Division (CSED) within the Department of Social Services, as part of state law, requires that if a non-custodial parent accumulates child support arrearages of between $150.00 and $1000.00, he is subject to: (1) License Revocation, whereas “any driver’s, occupational, professional, business or commercial license” issued by the state “is subject to being suspended or revoked,” (2) Federal Income Tax Refund Offset, whereas, his Federal and State Income Tax Refunds are “subject to being intercepted to pay child support,” (3) Unemployment Insurance Benefits Intercept, whereas any unemployment benefits received by the non-custodial parent are subject to interception, (4) Passport Denial Revocation or Restriction, and (5) Administrative Lien, whereas, any asset, real or personal, is subject to seizure, including bank accounts, land and automobiles (SCDSS, 2011a).

The difference between child support cases in South Carolina involving Temporary Aid for Needy Families (TANF) and those not involving TANF is significant. In fiscal year 2010, the total number of child support cases was 232,650, of which 196,995 were non-TANF child support cases and only 35,655 were TANF child support cases (SCDSS, 1011b). The number of non-TANF cases was over five-and-one-half times that of TANF cases.

The CSED notes that it “does not have the authority to address custody and visitation issues on behalf of either parent” and that it can “only assist in the establishment of paternity and the establishment and enforcement of a child support order” (SCDSS, 2011c) (emphasis added). It is important to note the prominence of the South Carolina’s “Child Support Enforcement Division” and lack of a state “Child Visitation Enforcement Division.” As such, there is a finite agency to ensure that custodial parents (most often mothers) receive court-ordered child support, but there is no agency whatever to ensure that non-custodial parents (most often fathers) receive court-ordered child visitation. As well documented in this paper, this has an overwhelmingly devastating effect on fathers and seriously undermines the best interests of children in the state.

As a caveat, the CSED does acknowledge the importance of child “visitation” and offers a “pilot program” to help non-custodial parents address visitation issues, but the agency makes clear that its focus is “making sure the non-custodial parent lives up to his/her financial responsibility in raising the child” (ibid).

What fathers bring to the table

Children from single-parent and step-family homes have lower educational expectations, less monitoring and supervision from parents than children from intact homes, and lower scores on standardized tests and overall grades in school (Manning & Lamb, 2003; Sun & Li, 2011). Even children from adoptive homes have higher levels of parental involvement in school than those from single-parent and step-families (Zill, et al, 1993).

Children with involved fathers enjoy school more, get more “A’s,” participate in more extracurricular activities and get suspended less than children whose fathers are not involved (Nord, et al, 1997). Only 11.6% of children from intact homes have had to repeat at least one grade in school, compared to 21.5% of those living with a divorced mother and 29.7% of those living with a never-married mother (Dawson, 1991). Those from two-parent homes are twice as likely to graduate from high school, even when taking into account race, socioeconomic status, and other factors (Luster & Mcadoo, 1994) and 20 times as likely to attend college (Wallerstein, 1986).

The children of a never-married mother are more likely to be treated for emotional/behavioral problems (Hanson, et al, 1996; Phares & Lum, 1997; Popenoe, 1993; McNeely, 1998), and, except for those at the highest income levels, are almost twice as likely to suffer school suspension and expulsion (McNeely, ibid), with over 15% of children living with never-married mothers and almost 11% of children from divorced parents having been expelled or suspended (Dawson, ibid). Among children living with both biological parents the rate is only 4.4% (ibid).

Poor school performance and troublesome behavior seem to be especially problematic for black children living in single-parent homes, and these children score significantly lower on intellectual ability tests than black children from two-parent homes (Luster & Mcadoo, ibid).

Among all identifiable family designations in today’s society (intact families, stepfamilies, single mothers, adopted parents, single fathers, grandparent-headed households, etc.), 49% of all child abuse is committed by single mothers (Ditson & Shay, 1984).

Being raised in a female-headed or broken home surpasses even race, poverty level, and parent education as a predictor of emotional distress, behavioral problems and receiving psychiatric help by the ages of 18 to 22 (Duncan, et al, 1994; Zill, et al, ibid). The rate of adolescent psychiatric patients who came from fatherless homes is as high as 80% (Block, 1988).

Compared to children raised in intact families, the children of divorced or never-married mothers are less cooperative and score lower on intelligence tests (Duncan, et al, ibid). Boys are more likely to be incarcerated as delinquents and to display worse conduct during their incarceration (Marshall, et al, 2001; Matlock, et al, 1994).

Children from fatherless homes suffer disproportionately from a variety of psychological disorders as compared to those from intact families (Brent, 1995) and are much more likely to exhibit violent, aggressive, and criminal behavior (Vaden-Kierman, et al, 1995). They represent over 70% of all high school dropouts, have higher rates of mental illness, violence and alcohol and drug use (Berman 1995; Duncan, et al, ibid) and engage in greater and even earlier sexual activity (Metzler, et al, 1994).

They make up about 63% of youth suicides (Brent, et al, 1995), 60-80% of rapists and 72% adolescent murders (Cornell, et al, 1987; Davidson, 1990; McNeely, ibid), and represent 70-85% of youths in state prisons (Cornell, et al, ibid; Knight & Prentky, 1987; Wells & Rankin, 1991).

Indeed, crime and burglary levels in a community are more reliably predicted by its level of single-parent households than by its levels of poverty (McNeely, ibid; Smith & Jarjoura, 1988). Baskerville (ibid) notes that a young male’s likelihood of engaging in criminal activity “triples” if he is reared in a neighborhood with a high concentration of single-parent families.

Fathers contribute significantly to child development (McAdoo, 1993; Yeung, et al, 2001) and tend to spend more time in stimulating, playful, one-on-one interactions, and even “roughhousing” with infants and toddlers than do mothers, which is beneficial to child emotional and social development by helping them learn how to regulate their feelings and behavior. While mothers focus on important “nurturing,” fathers tend to promote independence and stress “achievement,” which helps children deal with external stimuli and exhibit self-control (Neilson, 2011; Rosenberg & Bradford, 2006).

Messner (1989) showed how, as early as just a few months old, children experience “father hunger” when fathers are suddenly and permanently absent from the home, resulting in trouble falling asleep and nightmares.

A number of studies show that the presence of a father in the home correlates strongly with child protection from abuse and neglect (Putnam, 2003; Radhakrishna, et al, 2001). Mothers are about twice as likely to be responsible for overall child maltreatment, with fathers being responsible for about 36.8% and mothers being responsible for over 60% (Rosenberg & Bradford, ibid). Single mothers alone are responsible for about 49% of all child abuse cases (Ditson & Shay, ibid).

It might be argued that mothers may account for more child maltreatment because they are more often granted more expansive custody of children, but this does not explain why children who live with their biological father who has remarried are significantly less likely to be physically or sexually abused than those living with a mother who has remarried or has a live-in boyfriend (Rosenberg & Bradford, ibid). Children living in homes where the biological father is not present are at much greater risk to suffer from child abuse (Halpern-Meeking & Tach, 2008).

Our Changing Views of Fatherhood

McNeely (ibid) gives a detailed chronicle of our changing perspectives on fathers in America. She explains how, in colonial American society, courts were reluctant to intervene in the child-father relationship. This is because children were viewed as the property of fathers because the father owned farmland and needed the children to work the land. As those children “earned” wages, etc., it was the father who was considered the primary provider and caretaker of children.

McNeely traces the first dramatic shift in our perception of fathers to the Industrial Revolution when fathers left the farm and went to work in remote factories, leaving mothers as the primary child caretaker. As she wrote, “the stereotypical images of fathers as familial breadwinners and mothers as domestic caretakers and primary childrearers were born.”

This change in society made its way into the courts and by the 20th century we saw the introduction of “the tender years doctrine” which presumed that mothers were better suited to care for children simply by virtue of their being female. As McNeely wrote, “The tender years doctrine is not a relevant fact, but an impermissible gender-based preference favoring the mother as custodian of a young child.”  As McNeely added, “by the 1920s, mother-custody preference was firmly rooted in the family court system (ibid).

According to Levit (1996), in recent decades most states have abandoned the legal presumption of favoring mothers in child custody, but so-called “joint custody” laws still seem to prefer mothers as custodians.

In 1975, President Ford created the Office of Child Support Enforcement (OCSE). Welfare legislation in 1984 required states to adopt child support guidelines in hopes that it would allow mothers to get off of welfare if fathers paid more child support. Unfortunately, the fathers of children whose mothers were on welfare were either unemployed or unemployable, so child support from these fathers did not materialize, to much of a degree. In 1988, child support guidelines were changed to include the fathers of about 80 percent of the child support payers whose children were not on welfare. (Baskerville, 2004).

The US Department of Health and Human Services quotes President Bill Clinton as saying that, “The single biggest social problem in our society may be the growing absence of fathers from their children’s homes, because it contributes to so many other social problems” (DHHS, 2004). This paper shows that this statement is clearly supported by research. Unfortunately, far too many have declared that fathers are “abandoning” their children, which is far from accurate. Research shows that it is not fathers’ behavior which is causing fatherless children, but rather the behavior of mothers and the family courts.

Mothers and Custody

In 2002, Fields (2003) showed that 69% of all children in the U.S. lived with two parents, 23% lived with their mother only, 5% lived with their father only and 3% lived with neither parent and noted that almost as many children live with neither parent as live with their father only.

About 80% of all custodial parents are mothers, leaving fathers to make up only about 20% (Fields, ibid). McNeely (ibid) blamed this disproportion on the “stereotypical” belief that mothers are the best primary caregivers. Braver, et al (1991) showed that this stereotype granted mothers undue influence over children’s lives because; (1) it guaranteed them child support payments from the father, (2) there is typically no oversight as to how those payments are spent, and (3) mothers enjoy more time with children than do fathers. These three factors grant mothers “exacerbated power” and influence in regards to child development, including education, religious, and medical decisions (ibid).

About two-thirds (66%) of divorces in the United States are filed by the wife (Brinig & Allen, 2002). When children are involved, women are “more” prone to petition for divorce and men are “less” prone to petition for divorce. Both former husbands and former wives report that it was most often the wife who petitioned for divorce. After divorce, it is most common that “contact” between children and fathers diminishes dramatically (Braver, et al, 1991; Dudley, 1991; Furstenberg, et al, 1983; Furstenberg, et al, 1987; Nielson, 2011).

Even during divorce proceedings, many fathers are reluctant to seek Shared Parenting because of preconceived notions, which include that they feel like (1) they cannot afford a lengthy legal battle, (2) do not want to put their children through such a battle, and (3) they enter the court with little bargaining power and will lose a judgment anyway. In addition, attorneys often warn fathers of these points (Nielson, 2011).

Fathers and Child Support

About 58% of all non-custodial parents live below the poverty line (DHHS, 2000; Ewing, 1995; Waller & Plotnick, 1999). It is estimated that about 66% of fathers who are behind on child support are simply unable to pay (Baskerville, 2004; McNeely, ibid).

Under current child support guidelines, because custodial parents (primarily mothers) benefit through government programs, a custodial mother who is receiving child support from a non-custodial father could have a higher standard of living than the father, even if the father had a higher level of income. This presents as an ironic twist to the concept that each parent has an equal responsibility (proportionate to their income) to support their children (Rogers, 2000; Baskerville, 2004). In addition, Ewing (1995) finds that, in almost all cases, there is no accountability for child support payments, which creates a “disincentive” for payment.

Mitchell (1995) notes the overall irony in child support payments in that they are intended to set women “free” from the bonds of marriage, but simultaneously “expects, permits, and maintains the outdated role of women as the weaker and dependent sex.”

Sonenstein (2002) notes the irony in that custodial mothers are provided a wealth of government services (housing, employment, food stamps, child support enforcement services, etc.) for which non-custodial fathers would not be eligible, and adds that, “it is important to note that similar biases may also exist within family courts, among judges as well as attorney” but “no research studies were found on this topic.”

At least until recently, there were “no published studies on the extent of
non-custodial fathers’ involvement in caseplanning” (ibid) and social services and child protective services workers have had little or no training on involving fathers in case planning (ibid; Greif & Bailey, 1990), workers typical focused more on mothers (Lazar, et al, 1991), and often neglected to consider birth fathers during child placement (Featherstone, 2001; Franck, 2001). Ronsenberg & Bradford (ibid) acknowledge that “working with fathers in social services is relatively new” and that the first national gathering held solely to include “fathers” didn’t occur until 1994.

Biological fathers who are not married to or living with the biological mothers of their children are more likely to have a “stabilizing female influence” in the household more often that the biological mother is likely to have a stabilizing male influence in the home (Greif & Zuravin, 1989; Sonenstein, ibid).

Much of the record of Family Courts is non-existent and there is little or no data to review Family Court decisions. As Judge Page, Presiding Judge of the Family Part of the Supreme Court of New Jersey is quoted, “the family court is the most powerful branch of the judiciary… the power of family courts judges is almost unlimited” (Baskerville, 2004).

Visitational Interference

An overwhelming 75-90% of unwed fathers of newborns are “very involved” with their newborns (Johnson, 2001) but that high involvement tapers off quickly after birth (Sonenstein, et al, ibid; Fagan & Palkovitz, ibid). Among children living in single-mother homes, as many as 35% never see their fathers and 24% see their father only once per month (Seltzer, 1988a; ibid 1988b). Overall, conventional parenting plans only allow children to live with their fathers about 15% of the time (Nielson (2011).

A number of studies show that the relationship between the mother and father can adversely affect child-father relationship (Ahrons, et al, 1993; Minton & Pasley, 1996; Selzter, 1998a; Selzter 1998b). According to Parents’ Fair Share (the first ‘national demonstration project’ aimed at addressing child support payments, employment and involvement of noncustodial fathers of children receiving welfare), non-custodial fathers are very often frustrated by visitation interference by custodial mothers (Miller & Knox, 2001).

As many as 40-50% of custodial mothers admit to interfering with father visitation in order to “punish” the father (Arditti, ibid; Braver et al, ibid) and fathers themselves also blame “the court’s failure to enforce or expand visitation agreements” (Dudley, ibid).

Seventy percent of fathers feel like they have too little time with their children and “very few” children are satisfied with the amount of contact they have with their fathers (Fabricus, 2003; Kock & Lowery, 1984).

The growing popularity of “Parental Alienation Syndrome” is worthy of note. In short, this syndrome occurs when one parent attempts to “alienate” the children from the other parent. This can happen by constantly “browbeating” the children with degradations of the “target” parent to the point where the children become afraid to disagree with the “alienating” parent. As a self-preservation response, the children agree with the alienating parent and even begin to degrade the targeted parent themselves (Walsh, et al, 2004). As Dutton, et al, (2009) note, while the American Psychological Association has no official position on Parental Alienation Syndrome, the syndrome itself is referenced in no less than 250 referenced works in the PsycINFO database, including almost 250 peer-reviewed academic journals.

Both men and women favor shared parenting (Braver et al, 2011) and those children who enjoy the benefit of “shared parenting” rate equally or better in psychological, academic, behavioral, and social well-being compared to those in traditional post-divorce custody (Aquilino, 2010; Breivik & Olweus, 2006; Scott, et al, 2007; Lee, 2002; Melli & Brown, 2008).

Conclusion

This paper suggests that legislatures and Family Courts have not adequately kept up with the drastic changes in family dynamics in recent decades. As McNeely (ibid) insists, the current Family Court system “denies the capability and desire” of fathers to participate in their children’s lives.

The evidence strongly suggests that there is a clear anti-male bias in Family Courts because women receive custody of children in overwhelming numbers, which also grants them court orders of child support payments from fathers. While fathers are granted child “visitation,” that visitation is typically only a few days per month, allowing mothers disproportionately more time with the children.

Still further, South Carolina’s Child Support Enforcement Division ensures that child support payments are collected for mothers (with the threat of jail for fathers who don’t pay, even if they can’t pay) and there is no parallel, equitable agency to ensure that mothers abide by court-ordered visitation rules and regulations. All of these factors grant mothers significant power and control over their children which, by definition, significantly reduces the power and influence that fathers have in child development and decision-making.

This paper suggests that the “deadbeat dad” moniker is misleading and dismisses many of the important factors involved in what are very-nuanced non-marital and post-divorce child custody, support and visitation considerations. It furthers suggests that it is not fathers who are “abandoning” their children, it is rather mothers, Child Support Services and Family Court systems, who systematically strip fathers of the ability and opportunity to provide for their children.

Lastly, this paper shows that biological fathers do indeed present as very important factors in child development, whether married, separated, divorced or non-marital, and seriously questions the assumptions that the mother is the “better” parent. This paper suggests that separating fathers from their children, by denying them equitable access and decision-making, has had devastating effects on child development, to include school performance, behavioral and psychological problems, truancy, delinquency, suicide, murder and imprisonment – all of which are creating havoc in society. The currently available research shows that “fatherlessness” surpasses even poverty levels and race as a determining factor of these social ills.

Recommendations

There are many areas where South Carolina has caused, and continues to cause, detrimental harm to our children, and society as a whole.

This paper strongly suggests that the state legislature should seriously take up the issue of Shared Parenting so that the very important influence of fathers might be included in non-marital and post-divorce families.

With Shared Parenting, as both fathers and mothers provide equally to child development and financial arrangements, both parents (particularly if low-income) should have equal right to the Earned Income Tax Credit (EITC) and AFDC benefits.

The state legislature and Family Courts should do away with the “tender years” mentality  which has spawned the outdated notion that mothers are the “superior parent” and replace it with Shared Parenting, which presumes that both parents have an equally fundamental right to parent their children.

With a sincere implementation of Shared Parenting, both “visitation” and “child support” should become terms of the past. If both parents share equally in child rearing and support, child support payments should be eliminated, as long as the child’s basic needs are being met.

In those cases where child support payments might be necessary, the legislature should implement easier means for low-income fathers to adjust payments during times of economic downturn or job layoff. In addition, “in kind” payments should receive the same credit as other payments. Denial of these types of payments cause low-income fathers to incur debt when they give custodial mothers cash, diapers, or other gifts she may need in a hurry. Denying credit of these payments may serve as disincentive to pay regular child support.

Family Court judges should recognize the important role fathers play in child development and grant fathers an equitable representation and treatment during family court cases. The legislature should require Family Courts to provide statistical information on court decisions so that child placement and other decisions are subject to audit and review.

Social Service and Child Protective Service agencies should implement serious training to ensure that workers do not engage in anti-male bias when making child placement, custody, and well-being decisions.

Finally, Mothers should be honest in recognizing that, as women, they have themselves been subjected to sexism and disenfranchisement in the past, and they should acknowledge the travesty of using the Family Court system to disenfranchise fathers. They should further recognize the dishonesty of proclaiming the right to social equality with men while simultaneously demanding that women are better parents than men, and that men support them financially with child support payments. Mothers should recognize that disrupting important child-father relationship and bonding is seriously detrimental to child development.

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The Importance of Fathers: Statistical compilation by the South Carolina Fathers Initiative

The Importance of Fathers: Statistical compilation by the South Carolina Fathers Initiative

by Keith Pounds, MBA

submitted to: South Carolina Fathers Initiative

Keith.Pounds@alumni.aiuonline.edu

(Note: Please feel free to forward, print, or use this compilation of work at your discretion, but please give credit to the South Carolina Fathers Initiative)

 CHILD CUSTODY & VISITATION

As many as 50% of custodial mothers admit to interfering with father visitation in order to “punish” the father (Arditti, 1992; Braver, 2011; Miller & Knox, 2001).

  • Among children living in single-mother homes, 35% never see their fathers and 24% see their father only once per month (Pruett et al, 2000).
  • Conventional parenting plans allow children to live with their fathers only about 15% of the time (Nielson, 2011; Sonenstein, et al, 2002).
  • 70% of fathers feel like they have too little time with their children and the vast majority of children want more time with their fathers (Ahrons, 2004; 2004; Fabricus, 2003; Finely & Schwartz, 2007; Kock & Lowery, 1984; Hallman & Deinhart, 2007).
  • 23% of children in the U.S. live with their mother only, 5% live with their father only and 3% live with neither parent (Note: As many children live with no parent as live with their father only) (Fields, 2003).
  • Both men and women favor Shared Parenting (Braver, 2011).
  • Those children who enjoy the benefit of “Shared Parenting” rate equally or better in psychological, academic, behavioral, and social well-being compared to those in traditional post-divorce custody (Aquilino, 2010; Breivik & Olweus, 2006; Scott et al, 2007; Melli & Brown, 2008).

CRIME & BEHAVIOR

A young male’s likelihood of engaging in criminal activity “triples” if he is reared in a neighborhood with a high concentration of single-parent families (Baskerville, 2002; Baskerville, 2004).

Children from fatherless homes;

  • 80% of rapists motivated by “displaced anger” (Knight & Prentky, 1987).
  • 63% of youth suicides (Brent, et al, 1995).
  • 72% adolescent murders (Cornell, et al, 1987; Davidson, 1990; McNeely, 1988).
  • 70-85% of youths in state prisons (Cornell, et al, 1987; Knight & Prentky, 1987; Wells & Rankin, 1991).
  • 80% of youth adolescent patients (Block, 1988).
  • Suffer disproportionately from, and are much more likely to be treated for, a variety of psychological and behavioral disorders as compared to those from intact families (Aquilino, 2010; Breivik & Olweus, 2006; Brent, 1995; Hanson et al, 1996; Lee, 2002; McNelly, 1998; Melli & Brown, 2008; Phares & Lum, 1997; Prazen, et al, 2011; Scott et al, 2007; Spruijt & Duindam, 2009).
  • Much more likely to exhibit violent, aggressive, and criminal behavior (Vaden-Kierman, et al, 1995).
  • Display worse behavior when incarcerated (Marshall et al, 2001).
  • Have higher rates of mental illness, violence and alcohol and drug use (Berman 1995; Duncan, et al, 1994) and engage in greater and even earlier sexual activity (Metzler, et al, 1994).

SCHOOL

Children from fatherless homes represent over 70% of high school dropouts

  • Almost twice as likely to suffer school suspension and expulsion (McNeely, 1998).
  • Have lower educational expectations, less monitoring and supervision than children from intact homes, and lower scores on standardized tests and overall grades in school (Manning & Lamb, 2003;  Nord et al, 1997; Sun & Li, 2011).
  • Even children from adoptive homes have higher levels of parental involvement in school than those from single-parent and step-families (Zill, et al, 1993).
  • Most of those who have to repeat a grade – children of  never-married mothers (29.7%), divorced mother (21.5%), intact homes (11.6%) (Dawson, 1991).

Children from two-parent homes are:

  • Twice as likely to graduate from high school, even when taking into account race, socioeconomic status, and other factors (Luster & Mcadoo, 1994)
  • 20 times as likely to attend college (Wallerstein and Tanke, 1986).

MARRIAGE & PREGNANCY

Girls from fatherless homes are:

  • Over twice as likely to give birth as a teenager (Breivik & Olweus, 2006).
  • 53% more likely to marry as teenagers (Aquilino, 2010).
  • 164% more likely to give birth before marriage (Aquilino, 2010).
  • 92% more likely to end their own marriage (Aquilino, 2010).

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE & CHILD ABUSE

Children living in homes where the biological father is not present are at much greater risk to suffer from child abuse (Halpern-Meeking & Tach, 2008).

  • Mothers are about twice as likely to be responsible for overall child maltreatment, with fathers being responsible for about 36.8% and mothers being responsible for over 60% (Rosenberg & Bradford, 2006).
  • The perpetrators of child abuse are more likely to be mothers, boyfriends or stepfathers (Fabricus, 2003).
  • Children living in households with someone who is not their biological mother and father are 50 times more likely to die of inflicted injuries (Scott et al, 2007).

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Keith Pounds formally endorses Rick Santorum!!!

As Director of the South Carolina Fathers Initiative (SCFI), it is my job to facilitate the address of fatherlessness in society. Our primary address concerns fathers and children of all races, creeds, religious persuasions and political affiliations. We welcome and encourage true diversity, including the most important diversity, which is the diversity and free exchange of ideas. To that end, SCFI does not specifically endorse candidates for office.

But, as an individual, I understand that SCFI members and supporters also welcome the diversity of ideas, so I offer members and supporters my endorsement of Rick Santorum for President!

Why I Support Rick

Rick is NOT the dreaded government “insider” who believes in business-as-usual. He has been at the forefront of exposing fraud and abuse at every level. He helped expose the Congressional Banking and Congressional Post Office scandals. He is an author of the landmark Welfare Reform Act, passed in 1996, that empowered millions to get off of welfare. He wrote legislation to help outlaw “partial birth abortion,” the Born Alive Infant Protection Act and the Unborn Victims of Violence Act.

Education Reform – Rick is among the bold few who believe that “parents” are in the best position to make decisions about their children’s education, and believes that the federal role in education should be very limited.

The 2nd Amendment – Rick believes in the constitutionally protected rights found in the 2nd Amendment and is vehemently opposed to the Assault Weapons Ban, and believes in stricter enforcement of existing gun laws, rather than taking away the rights of law abiding gun owners.

Repeal Obamacare – Rick’s number one priority is to Repeal Obamacare. He believes that Americans should be free to make their own decisions about their own Health care, not government bureaucrats.

Controlling Spending – Rick has profound “core principles” concerning spending. These include prioritizing national defense, a refocus on constitutional priorities, reducing “duplicative” programs, eliminating wasteful programs, and modernizing welfare and social security. He seeks to implement Lean Six Sigma management to streamline government, freeze defense spending cuts, freeze spending levels for Medicaid, Housing, Education, Job Training and Food Stamps, eliminate all energy and agricultural subsidies, eliminate funding for Planned Parenthood, and cut EPA resources.

Families – Unlike Obama’s focus on “class warfare,” Rick believes that a strong national economy requires strong families! The importance of the “family unit” is laced throughout every aspect of Rick’s platform!

American Exceptionalism - Rick believes our nation’s leaders must be honest with the American people and call our ongoing war what it really is – a War with Radical Islam! Rick understands that without clearly defining who we are fighting and why we are fighting, the American people will never understand the great threat posed by our enemies.

These are some of Rick’s core principles. I lend him my full support and encourage others to do the same!

Keith Pounds

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New SC Bills for “joint custody” of children, by Keith Pounds. MBA

We, at the South Carolina Fathers Initiative (SCFI), strongly support the two bills currently in the SC House and Senate seeking to firmly address the issue of “joint custody” of minor children.

Bill S373 seeks to legally define “joint custody” in South Carolina as “a custodial agreement where both the mother and father equally share the legal custody and physical custody of a minor child” and presumes each parent to be entitled to “equal care giving time.”

This bill would eliminate confusion often caused during “visitation” for non-custodial parents (most often fathers) because it requires that each parent has “equal weight and voice” in all major decisions regarding minor children, including “educational, extracurricular, athletic, medical, spiritual, and emotional wellbeing.”

Bill H4095 requires that if one parent challenges joint custody, the burden of overcoming the presumption rests on the parent challenging the presumption. This simply means that joint custody will be granted in all cases unless it is proven that it would not be in the best interest of the child. This bill too requires that “parents shall share decision-making authority and responsibility for important decisions affecting the child’s welfare.”

This will bring a profound change to the Family Court system in our state. As far too many of us know, the Family Court system in South Carolina is broken. This is primarily because Family Court judges do not have the training or understanding of social issues required to make delicate decisions about complex family matters.

South Carolina’s Family Courts are based on an “adversarial system” where one party is expected to win and the other expected to lose. Obviously, when parents are pitted against each other in battle, the ‘best interest of the child’ is an unattainable standard.

Divorce lawyers like the way the system is because it generates good money and keeps them driving Lexus’ and SUVs. Family Court judges like the system the way it is because they are granted almost unlimited power, with few (if any) records or statistics to track their decisions.

Few people will dispute our societal concerns over crime, truancy, alcohol and drug abuse, school dropout rates, and teen pregnancies among our nation’s youths. What most don’t realize is that there is overwhelming sociological and psychological data showing that each and every one of these factors is exacerbated when fathers are not involved in their children’s lives.

Under current law in South Carolina, mothers are typically presumed to be the “better parent” and they are granted primary (if not sole) custody of children. The problem is that numerous studies are now showing that far too many mothers are intentionally restricting fathers from seeing their children, and there is little that fathers can do about it, other than spend thousands of dollars on an attorney.

Oustanding research has proven that single mother homes are among the most dangerous places for children to live, with higher rates of child abuse, neglect, school dropout, and alcohol and drug abuse. Children from single mother homes are much, much more likely than two-parent kids to engage in crime and end up in prison.

And this holds true (particularly the child abuse) even when the mother co-habits with a boyfriend or re-marries. At SCFI, we choose to recognize the overwhelming studies which show that there is no better predictor of successful childhood development than the presence of the biological father in the child’s life.

Bills S373 and H4095 will presume both the mother and father to have “equal” footing as parents and it will ensure that our state’s children will have the benefit of both parents’ influence and support.

As adults, we should accept that we owe our chidlren the best future we can provide them. At SCFI we strongly support S373 and H4095.

Keith Pounds, MBA (Columbia, SC), is the Director of the South Carolina Fathers Initiative (SCFI). He is a Lebanon/Grenada-era veteran having served as a Corpsman (Combat Medic) in the US Navy and with the Marine Corps. He is the author of the book “You’re Hysterical: How Feminine Hysteria has Eliminated the Male Role in Modern Society” and is the moderator of the blog Keithpounds.com. He can be contacted at Keith.Pounds@alumni.aiuonline.edu. 

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Keith Pounds (Columbia, SC) formally announces “SC Father’s Initiative”

PRESS RELEASE – For Immediate Release

December 01, 2011

Keith Pounds announces the formation of the South Carolina Father’s Initiative (SCFI).

The SCFI is organized to gather information on what it calls the “injustices” perpetuated against South Carolina children when their fathers are intentionally deprived of child visitation.

The primary objective of SCFI is to help educate legislators, the Family Court system (including judges), and divorce attorneys on the devastating effects on child development when fathers are maliciously driven out of their children’s lives.

SCFI hopes to partner with other fatherhood programs, but insists that it will not take what it calls the “feministic” approach to fatherhood that many programs have taken.

According to Pounds, “other fathers groups do good work in helping fathers to realize the importance of paying their child support, but we intend to take a more ’masculine’ approach. We intend to address the underhanded actions of mothers who refuse to live up to their obligations in providing a conducive environment for child visitation.”

As Pounds says, “most fatherhood programs today continue to blame father absence solely on fathers. At SCFI we understand that mother intereference in child visitation is far, far worse than nonpayment of child support.”

As Pounds continued, “There are a lot of malicious mothers out there who intentionally deprive their children of very important child-father bonding. With their accomplice attorneys and the Family Court system itself, they are responsible for far more child abuse in our state than any other group or entity.”

He adds that, “divorce attorneys in particular have known for years that a child’s bonding with his or her father is the most likely predictor that a child will grow up healthy, employed, out of prison and off of drugs. Yet, too many divorce attorneys stand side-by-side with malicious mothers as they deprive fathers of child visitation.”

Pounds insists that “the Cruella DeVille’s sitting within the Family Court system are no better,” adding that “every judge within the Family Court system knows that those kids being deprived of father visitation today are the very ones who will be locked in our prisons tomorrow.”

“At SCFI we simply want to keep these kids out of prison. And the only way to do that is with a father. Not with a big brother program, not with after school programs, not with midnight basketball, but with a father,” said Pounds.

SCFI plans to help implement laws and regulations which will prevent malicious mothers from disrupting the important bonding between fathers and children.

Pounds said that, “the constant browbeating of men with ‘deadbeat dad’ campaigns is getting old and tiring. Fact is, the issue is seldom about men seeking to avoid responsibility, as the footprints are often facing in the other direction.”

According to Pounds, ”studies show that noncompliance with visitation is three times as bad as noncompliance with child support. In other words, malicious mothers outnumber deadbeat dads three-to-one!”

He says, “I hope to gain support from various professions across the state to address the injustices that have been delivered upon our state’s children by our state legislators, our Family Court system, and many of our state’s malicious mothers and their unscrupulous attorneys.”

As part of the SCFI announcement, Pounds adds that, ”I would ask any fathers in our state who currently have, or have had in the past, any problems with child visitation in South Carolina, to please contact me to give me your story. I am hoping to use your real-life, tragic stories when addressing legislators and others as we address this issue.”

Pounds acknowledges that his announcement of SCFI is a harsh one. But he insists that, ”these are despicable people, who have been intentionally hard on our fathers, and have been willfully and maliciously harming our children. I want them to know that we’re bringing the fight to them.”

Other relevant articles by Keith Pounds, MBA

Keith’s scholarly article - ”How mothers and family courts create deadbeat dads” (November 6, 2011)

Warning! This article may upset some mothers (September 10, 2008)

The history of child support – It may surprise you (April 14, 2011)

Warning! This article may upset many poor people (April 22, 2011)

Domestic violence revisited: More effects of our culture of victimhood (May 22, 2011)

Men, boys and channeled aggression (May 15, 2011)

Mothers killing babies (May 28, 2011)

Warning! This article may upset people of food stamps (June 20, 2011)

Being a victim of rape, racism, domestic violence and other lies (August 8, 2011)

Are women more violent than men? (September 13, 2011)

Keith Pounds (Columbia, SC) is a Lebanon/Grenada-era veteran having served as a Hospital Corpsman (Combat Medic) in the U.S. Navy and with the Marine Corps. He holds an MBA with a concentration in Organizational Psychology. He is the author of the books The Psychology of Management and the recently released You’re Hysterical: How Feminine Hysteria has Eliminated the Male Role in Modern Society and is the originator of the Blog Keithpounds.com. He can be contacted at Keith.Pounds@alumni.aiuonline.edu

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Abe Lincoln’s December 24, 1848 letter to his brother-in-law, John Johnson

You're hysterical! How feminine hysteria has eliminated the male role in modern society

Many of us have friends or family members who repeatedly ask to borrow money. I always view these inquiries in the same light as I view those who seem to be perpetually reliant on government subsistence (welfare, food stamps, housing, and other free government money). I’ve certainly helped plenty of people who were “working” and happen to fall on hard times, and I will continue to do so. Heck, I’ve even had people help me when I needed. But, at the same time, I have no sympathy for those who repeatedly ask for help but refuse to help themselves. Here is the December 24, 1848 letter written by Abraham Lincoln to his brother-in-law, John Johnson, after his repeatedly asked Lincoln to borrow money. I love it!!!

Dear Johnston,

Your request for eighty dollars, I do not think it best to comply with now. At the various times when I have helped you a little, you have said to me, “We can get along very well now,” but in a very short time I find you in the same difficulty again. Now this can only happen by some defect in your conduct.

What that defect is, I think I know. You are not _lazy_, and still you _are_ an_idler_.

I doubt whether since I saw you, you have done a good whole day’s work, in any one day. You do not very much dislike to work, and still you do not work much, merely because it does not seem to you that you could get much for it. This habit of uselessly wasting time, is the whole difficulty; and it is vastly important to you, and still more so to your children, that you should break this habit. It is more important to them, because they have longer to live, and can keep out of an idle habit before they are in it easier than they can get out after they are in.

You are now in need of some ready money; and what I propose is, that you shall go to work, “tooth and nail,” for somebody who will give you money for it. Let father and your boys take charge of things at home–prepare for a crop, and make the crop; and you go to work for the best money wages, or in discharge of any debt you owe, that you can get. And to secure you a fair reward for your labor, I now promise you that for every dollar you will, between this and the first of next May, get for your own labor either in money or in your own indebtedness, I will then give you one other dollar. By this, if you hire yourself at ten dollars a month, from me you will get ten more, making twenty dollars a month for your work.

In this, I do not mean you shall go off to St. Louis, or the lead mines, or the gold mines, in California, but I mean for you to go at it for the best wages you can get close to home, in Coles County. Now if you will do this, you will soon be out of debt, and what is better, you will have a habit that will keep you from getting in debt again. But if I should now clear you out, next year you will be just as deep in as ever. You say you would almost give your place in Heaven for $70 or $80. Then you value your place in Heaven very cheaply, for I am sure you can with the offer I make you get the seventy or eighty dollars for four or five months’ work. You say if I furnish you the money you will deed me the land, and if you don’t pay the money back, you will deliver possession–Nonsense!

If you can’t now live _with_ the land, how will you then live without it? You have always been kind to me, and I do not now mean to be unkind to you. On the contrary, if you will but follow my advice, you will find it worth more than eight times eighty dollars to you.

Affectionately your brother,

A. LINCOLN.

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How mothers and family courts create “deadbeat dads”

HOW MOTHERS AND FAMILY COURTS CREATE “DEADBEAT DADS”

by Keith Pounds, MBA

November 6, 2011

 ABSTRACT

Malicious Mothers and the Family Court system have established a governmental machine that has destroyed American families. Marriage once guaranteed a stable home for our nation’s youth. But far too  many mothers have teamed up with Family Courts to force fathers out of the home, out of his children’s lives, and usurp his position as provider and protector. Since about the 1970s, the partnership (intended or not) of Malicious Mothers and Family Court judges has established obstacle after obstacle to ensure the failure of American fathers to simply be fathers. As a result, far too many fathers have been given no other choice than to “disengage.” As a further result, every sociological ill imaginable has worsened; to include crime, truancy, drug and alcohol abuse, teen and out-of-wedlock pregnancy, and lack of adequate work ethic and focus on education. There is only one answer to the multitude of social problems we face in America today: Fathers!

WHO CAUSES DIVORCE, MOM OR DAD?

We are typically given three major reasons why women divorce: (1) because the husband had an affair, (2) he abused his wife, or (3) he “abandoned” the children. But studies show that none of these are true.

A 2000 study by two law professors, Margaret Brinig of Notre Dame University and Douglas Allen of Simon Fraser University, in the American Law and Economics Review, entitled These Boots are made for Walking, showed that women file more than two-thirds of divorce cases (Brinig & Allen, 2000). Other studies show that in some states the number is as high as 70 percent. Interestingly, among college-educated couples, the number is 90 percent.

As noted in Why do women initiate divorce, “only 6 percent of the divorce cases showed violence,” and adultery on the part of the husband was not a major cause of divorces” (Myers, 2011).

According to Myers, most women divorce their husbands simply because they feel like they have “outgrown him.” Other reasons cited were because wives feel like they can “make it” without him. The data suggest that most divorces materialize out of the narcissism of women, not out of the trangressions of men or best interests of children.

Interestingly, above all other reasons why women divorce “the question of custody” surpasses them all. Over 80% of custodial parents are mothers. Women know that children are indeed “the most important asset” in any divorce and they know that in most state Family Court systems mothers have the upper hand. Brinig & Allen insist that the primary reason mothers file for divorce is “to gain full control over their children.”

Let’s be honest in recognizing that today’s divorce mills reward the very people most likely to break up their own families, and women divorce today because they know they can!

In the well-reviewed article Is there really a fatherhood crisis, Stephen Baskerville, professor of political science at Howard University, wrote that “no government or academic study has ever shown that large numbers of fathers are abandoning their children” (Baskerville, 2004).

As Sanford L. Braver wrote in his book Divorced Dads, “This is a quite recent trend precipitated by the cultural changes brought about primarily by the women’s movement; this cultural trend best accounts for the unprecedented rise in the divorce rate” (Braver, 1998).

DEADBEAT OR DEAD BROKE?

An overwhelming number of fathers who are behind on court ordered child support payments are not “shirking” their financial duties. The problem is that they simply can’t afford it.

The media, law enforcement and politicians would have us believe that fathers choose to “walk away” from their children. But the facts show this to be far from the truth.

As Carey Roberts wrote in The Rise of Big Sister-ism, “The problem is not dads who are deadbeats, the problem is men who are dead broke” (Roberts, 2005). In Discover the truth about deadbeat parents, we find two main reasons why fathers fail to pay child support: (1) they simply can’t afford child support payments, and (2) they choose not to pay because the mother refuses to allow them to see their children (Divorce, 2003).

A number of studies show that child support payments and child visitation are inextricably linked. The Divorce Magazine article referenced U.S. Census Bureau data which showed that fathers who were denied visitation paid child support only 44 percent of the time. Fathers who were allowed visitation paid their child support 79.1 percent of the time. What is most surprising is that those fathers who were granted “joint custody” of their children paid child support 90 percent of the time!

One telling statistic which may show that men typically do try hard to financially support their children is that of Lisa Porteus in Moms can be deadbeats too. She showed that 68 percent of all dads pay their court ordered child support, compared to only 57 percent of moms who are required to pay (Porteus, 2002).

As Theresa Smyth wrote in The truth about deadbeat dads in The Interim, “the Government Accounting Office found that two-thirds of unpaid child support was explained by the noncustodial parent’s inability to pay” (Smyth, 2007).

The overwhelming data actually suggest that many fathers choose to “retaliate” when they are not allowed to see their children. While we should not support intentionally breaking the law, what human being wouldn’t seek drastic measures when their children are taken from them through no fault of their own?

This should send a resounding message to lawmakers seeking to increase child support payments. Obviously, if you want Dads to pay support, allow them visitation with their children!

Very simply, many fathers just give up! And this is precisely what these hysterical mothers want.

They can then make the claim that the father is nowhere to be found and they (the mother) can own the title of “single parent” who is “doing it on my own” without a man. They engage in a self-fulfilling prophecy, whereas, they create the very thing of which they claim they wanted to avoid. They become a self-made victim!

As Baskerville wrote, “I don’t think you should be able to divorce somebody involuntarily who’s done nothing legally wrong and then force them to pay for (your) stealing his own children” (Baskerville, 2004).

CHILD SUPPORT VS. CHILD VISITATION

Lawmakers have, for the most part, chosen to deal with Child Support and Child Visitation separately. States spend millions of dollars to track down so-called “deadbeat dads” and entire agencies have been created in order to do so. Unfortunately, those same agencies turn their backs on fathers seeking to have their court-ordered child visitation enforced.

Admittedly, something as mathematic as child support payment is easy to address. The payments were either made or not made. But when it comes to Child Visitation, we are forced to sift through confusing testimony and individual perspectives of conduct, which is much harder to interpret.

But this shouldn’t be a reason to deny court ordered visitation!

It should be noted as well that most states clearly “profit” from their child support programs. In most states, child support payments are sent, not to the mother or the children, but through the state, and a percentage of the money is skimmed off the top before it is sent to the children. There is little chance of such profiting from child visitation, which may be a reason why lawmakers choose not to address it.

VISITATION INTERFERENCE

Once a mother files for, and receives, a divorce, the father typically leaves the marital home and, in essence, becomes homeless. While his children are forcibly taken from him through no fault of his own, he is additionally required to pay child support to the mother. Most fathers are then allowed to see their children only about one weekend every two weeks.

While this would seem tragic enough, an overwhelming number of mothers engage in child “gatekeeping” by drastically restricting or wholly disallowing what little visitation a father is allowed with his children.

Mother interference in father-child visitation is so pandemic that scholars have given specific names to the phenomenon. Parental Alienation Syndrome and Malicious Mother Syndrome are but two of these terms.

Studies show that up to 90 percent of custody battles involve Parental Alienation. In Divorce-related malicious mother syndrome, in Journal of Family Violence, Ira Turkat, Ph.D. found that 50 percent of fathers say that visitation with their children had been interfered with by the children’s mother. He further noted that 40 percent of women admitted that they had intentionally interferred with father-child visitation (Turkat, 1995).

Other studies show that these malicious mothers deny child visitation in order to “punish” the child’s father. These are astounding statistics which should alarm all parents!

MALICIOUS MOTHERS

Far too often, when post-divorce custody is granted to the mother, she psychologically issues herself the title of “superior parent.” In doing so, she grants herself the power to over-regulate every interaction between father and child. Think about how often we have heard a divorced mother say “my child,” as if hers was a virgin birth, and the father’s opinions and perspectives are wholly irrelevant.

In parental alienation syndrome: How to detect it and what to do about it, in the Florida Bar Journal, J. Michael Bone and Michael R. Walsh give a detailed accounting of the behaviors of Malicious Mothers. A quick review of their list is worthy of note:

1. Access and Content Blocking – When a mother denies the father “access” to the child. This can happen by completely disallowing visitation, or by restricting the father from talking to the child on the phone. Often, these mothers consider the father to be the “inferior” parent, and the mother needs to “protect” the child from him.

2. False or unfounded accusations – Major studies show that false allegations of both spousal abuse and child sexual abuse are rampant during high-conflict divorces. The authors wrote that, “when the record shows that even one report of such abuse is ruled unfounded, the interviewer is well advised to look for other expressions of false legations.” Many mothers even charge fathers with “emotional abuse” of the child, when what is often happening is that there are minor difference in rules (bedtime, computer games, activities) between the mother’s and the father’s home. This mother may “nit-pick” minor events, but when she does this dozens, or hundreds, of times, it can be devastating to the father and the child. As the authors so succinctly wrote, “the responsible parent will give the other parent the benefit of the doubt when such allegations arise. He or she will, if anything, err on the side of denial, whereas the alienating parent will not miss an opportunity to accuse the other parent.”

3. Deteriorating Relationship Since Separation – This happens when a mother intentionally causes the deterioration of the relationship between father and child, and it is particularly disturbing. An emotionally abusive mother can put fear into a child with recurring degradation of his or her father. This can cause the child to come to “agree” with the mother purely as a form of “self preservation” (Bone & Walsh, 1999). That is, the child tells the mother that he or she has no interest in seeing the father simply to make mom happy, so she’ll shut up!

Clearly, Malicious Mothers operate in a “fear-based’ environment!

Turkat adds several other malicious behaviors to these categories. One includes the mother who “unjustifiably punishes her divorcing or divorced husband” by engaging in “excessive litigation” (Turkat, 1995). He noted that only 17.2% of  families file one post-divorce petition to the court, less than 5% file two or more petitions, and less than 1% file four or more petitions. So, because post-divorce petitions are so uncommon, those who file them should be cautious.

Turkat writes that, because of the physical separation between fathers and children, “the telephone plays an important role in maintaining the bond between child and (the father) (Turkat, 1995). Many Malicious Mothers refuse to allow an absent father to speak with his children on the phone. Other mothers harass the father with phone calls while the children are visiting in order to disrupt visitation.

One account tells of a father who refused to answer the phone during visitation to avoid the mother upsetting the children. The mother then took the father to court because he refused “to communicate” with her. Another tells of a mother who refused to allow the father to speak with the children on the phone, so the children’s school teacher helped the father talk to his children on the phone at school. The mother took the father to court.

Again, this can become so emotionally overwhelming many fathers simply “give up.” Of course, this is exactly what malicious mothers want!

As Turkat also wrote, “an integral part of the process of maintaining one’s bond with one’s child is to participate in activities that one did before the parents separated. School plays, team sports, and religious events are just some of the types of activities of importance.”

Many malicious mothers focus incessantly on school activities. They intentionally misinform the father in regards to school plays or sporting events to prevent the father from attending. One account tells of a mother who would say to her children “I told you your father wouldn’t come,” after having conveniently not told the father of a school sporting event.

As Baskerville wrote, school musicals and sporting events are functions that any stranger can attend, but having a father arrested for attending his own child’s school function “is common.” One father called his child’s school to find out the time and place of his son’s football game, but the school would not give him the information because the mother told school officials she was afraid the father would “kidnap” the child.

Another way of preventing fathers from fully participating in their children’s lives is to prevent him from helping with school homework or denying him access to medical information. A Malicious Mother might do this to “hide” information about the child from the father. Of course, this restricts the father’s access to what is really going on with the child and establishes the mother as the “superior parent.”

SELF-FULFILLING PROPHECIES

As Turkat wrote, those women who do engage in “Malicious Mother” behaviors, “are skillful liars, highly manipulative, and quite adept at recruiting others to participate in the campaign against the father.” In addition, because we refuse to acknowledge the devastation of these behaviors, and because our Family Court systems allow it, when these women are in court, they often “run circles around opposing counsel.” As he also noted, “a skilled liar can be a compelling witness in court (Turkat, 1997).

It should be noted that pathological lying and manipulation are clearly trademarks of someone diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder, from which many Malicious Mothers suffer. Although, a diagnosis of mental illness is not always present.

In my own article, Are women more violent than men, I wrote that there is financial reward for attorneys who facilitate these abusive women (Pounds, 2011). Turkat noted that “there are some attorneys who may unintentionally encourage this type of behavior… On the other hand, there are some attorneys who deliberately encourage such behavior, as the financial rewards for them are time dependent. In other words, the more involved the litigation process, the greater profits for the attorney” (Turkat, 1995).

Unfortunately, the constant browbeating of fathers over visitation restrictions, additions, rules, times, etc. causes some fathers to “give up” because the emotional abuse is simply too much, not only for the father, but for his children as well.

While this is, to a degree, understandable, it allows the mother to say “I told you your father didn’t want to see you.”

As Turkat further recognized, because “child support enforcement” receives exaggerated governmental recognition, urgency, and respect, the message is sent to Malicious Mothers that the fathers of their children are “helpless victims” and this “reinforces much of the vicious behavior displayed by women suffering from Divorce Related Malicious Mother Syndrome” (Turkat, 1995).

One of my primary concerns is that “feminism” itself seems to have created many of these very destructive behaviors. We might want to explore how the feminist concept of “I don’t need a man” has perverted the sense of parenthood among many divorced and single mothers.

That is to say, these mothers are taught that upon divorce or out-of-wedlock childbirth they can do it all. When they come to discover that their child really does need his or her father (and his money) it presents as a crushing blow to their over-inflated, feministic egos. In retaliation, they aim their hysterical behavior and outbursts at the one entity that stands in the way of their “almighty, I can do-it-all-without-a-man” persona. They aim their hysteria at the father, even at the expense of their children’s best interest.

THE REAL CHILD ABUSERS

Baskerville suggests that “domestic violence” hysteria itself is “aimed specifically at removing children from their fathers.” He notes that even feminists admit that “the vast preponderance of domestic violence takes place among divorced and separated couples” (Bakersville, 2004).

In Are women more violent than men, I examined a number of scholarly studies showing that women are as violent (if not more violent) than men (Pounds, 2011).

It is indeed single mothers (and not fathers) “who are the most likely to abuse children.” Health and Human Services studies show that “It is estimated that … almost two-thirds (of child abusers) were females” (Bakerville, 2004).

Further, children are “thirty-three times” more likely to be abused by a live-in boyfriend and stepfather, so fathers are actually the least likely to abuse children.

As Baskerville wrote: “It appears the real abusers have removed (the father) from the family so they can abuse his children with impunity.”

KANGAROO COURTS

Ask almost any attorney today and (if they are honest) he or she will tell you that American’s Family Court systems are a disgraceful sham!

Indeed, Malcom X once called the Family Court system “modern slavery” and Supreme Court Justice Abe Fortas once characterized it as a “kangaroo court” (Baskerville, 2004).

As Tom Golden noted in Anti Male Bias, part of our problem in addressing these types of issues is that they have been overtaken by a feminist perspective of psychology itself. Any issue that deals with “therapy,” by definition, deals with “talking” and “emotions.” He insists that “this is harmonious with what we have come to learn to be the nature of the female response to stress and loss but runs counter to the masculine path” (Golden, 2011).

In essence, men tend to “suck it up” while women “complain,” and the Family Court system is specifically geared to help those who complain.

According to Baskerville, a father’s “personal habits, movements, conversations, writings, and purchases are subject to inquiry by the court” and he “no longer has any say in where the children reside, attend school, or worship. He has no necessary access to their school or medical records or any control over medications or drugs. He can be enjoined from taking his children to the doctor or dentist… he is punished even though he did not incur the debt voluntarily.”

He further notes the absurdity in that Family Courts can, “seize control of children, property, and persons of any citizens as they can, thereby increasing their jurisdiction and the demand for their services.” Even more, he quotes one attorney who asks “why parents charged with no civil or criminal wrongdoing must surrender to the government the right to rear their own children” (Baskerville, 2004).

THE IMPORTANCE OF FATHERS

Why is it that poor children from a two-parent home are less likely to get into trouble than affluent kids from a single mother home? Why is it that black kids from a two-parent home are less likely to get in trouble than white kids from a single mother home?

The obvious answer is: Fathers! An objective look at any sociological study shows that more money and government programs cannot stop crime, but fathers can!

So why is it that Family Courts, Child Protective Services, Social Workers, public schools, and any other number of governmental agencies specifically target fathers, and seek to dissolve every marriage they can get their hands on?

As Baskerville so eloquently wrote, “The assumption that the government has a legitimate role in ameliorating the problem of fatherlessness also glides over the more fundamental questions of whether the government has had a role in creating the problem” (Baskerville, 2004).

Malicious mothers and the Family Court system have established a governmental machine that has destroyed American families. Marriage once guaranteed a stable home for our nation’s youth. But far too many mothers have teamed up with the Family Court system to force fathers out of the home, out of his children’s lives, and usurp his position as provider and protector.

Since about the 1970s, the partnership (intended or not) of Malicious Mothers and Family Court judges has established obstacle after obstacle to ensure the failure of American fathers to simply be fathers.

As a result, far too many fathers have been given no other choice than to “disengage.”

Baskerville, wrote, and any number of studies agree that, “Virtually every major social pathology has been linked to fatherless children: violent crime, drug and alcohol abuse, truancy, unwed pregnancy, suicide, and psychological disorders – all correlating more strongly with fatherlessness than with any other single  factor, surpassing even race and poverty. The majority of prisoners, juvenile detention inmates, high school dropouts, pregnant teenagers, adolescent murders, and rapists come from fatherless homes” (Baskerville, 2004).

There is only one answer to the multitude of social problems we face in America today: Fathers!

KEITH POUNDS is a Lebanon/Grenada-era veteran having served as a Corpsman in the U.S. Navy and with the Marine Corps. He holds an MBA with a concentration in Organizational Psychology and is the author of the books The Psychology of Management (2008, iUniverse Publications) and You’re Hysterical: How Modern Feminine Hysteria has eliminated the Male Role in Society (2011, Infinity Publishing) and is the originator and moderator of Keithpounds.com. He lives in Columbia, South Carolina and can be contacted at Keith.Pounds@alumni.aiuonline.edu

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Braver, S. (1998). Divorced dads, pp. 288. Tarcher (Penguin Group): New York, New York.

Brinig, M.F. & Allen D.W. (2000). These boots are made for walking: Why most divorce filers are women. In American Law and Economics Review, V2 N1, 2000, pp. 126-169. Retrievable online at http://www.unc.edu/courses/2006fall/econ/586/001/Readings/Brinig.pdf

Divorce (2003). Discover the truth about deadbeat parents: Is your ex failing to support your children? In Divorce Magazine. Ivillage.com, March 13, 2003. Retrievable at http://www.ivillage.com/discover-truth-about-deadbeat-parents-0/4-a-283690

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Myers, J. E. (2011). Why do women initiate divorce? Livestrong.com, April 26, 2011. Retrievable at http://www.livestrong.com/article/146100-why-do-women-initiate-divorce/

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Roberts, C. (2005). The rise of big sister-ism. Thepriceofliberty.org, April 04, 2005. Retrievable at http://www.thepriceofliberty.org/05/04/04/roberts.htm

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Why Blacks need the Republican Party, by Keith Pounds

"You're Hysterical"

Was Herman Cain out of line in saying that Blacks have been ‘brainwashed’ by the Democratic Party? Is Samuel Jackson correct to say the Tea Party is full of racists?

Well.. I have some thoughts!

The Republican Party was indeed the party of Lincoln and was formed with the specific intent of abolishing slavery. It has always been the party that most strongly stood for free speech and the rights of the individual.

It was the Republican Party which first pushed civil rights legislation in 1865.

As Larry Elder wrote in his book Stupid Black Men, “How many blacks know that following the Civil War, twenty-two blacks – thirteen of them ex slaves – were elected to Congress, all as Republicans?”

It was Republicans who supported the Thirteenth Amendment (1865) emancipating the slaves. It was Republicans who supported the Fourteenth Amendment (1868) to give newly emancipated blacks full civil rights and federal guarantee of those rights. It was Republicans who supported the Fifteenth Amendment (1870) guaranteeing blacks the right to vote.

In 1954, the Brown vs. Board of Education decision was strongly supported by Republicans, but not by Democrats.

Every single vote against the 1960 Civil Rights Act came from a Democrat. As for the 1964 Civil Rights Act, only 64 percent of Democrats voted for, with 80 percent of Republicans voting for.

By the 1930s, there was indeed an exodus of Blacks from the Republican Party to the Democratic Party. This came as a result of Franklin D. Roosevelt’s New Deal policies, which Blacks viewed as beneficial to Black communities.

This so-called Black exodus became more prominent by 1964 when Republicans nominated Senator Barry Goldwater as the party’s presidential nominee. Goldwater stood against the Civil Rights Act which helped Lyndon Johnson in the Black community. Many Democrats today mark this as an example of modern Republican racism.

Goldwater himself was actually strongly opposed to segregation, but he also believed in limited government. As Ann Coulter wrote in her book Demonic, “It was, after all, racist Democrat politicians in the South using the force of the government to violate private property rights by enforcing the Jim Crow laws in the first place.”

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As Coulter added, “Democrats only came around on civil rights when blacks were voting in high enough numbers to make a difference at the ballot box – and then they claimed credit for everything their party had ferociously blocked since the Civil War.”

Coulter outlines what many Conservatives view as the reason why Blacks so illogically left the Republican Party. She insists that in the volatile 1960s, the “worst generation” in America emerged, inspiring dramatic changes in American culture. Obscenity became legalized, student riots were the norm, “no fault” divorce increased, we saw the formation of radical, hysterical groups like the Weather Underground and the Black Panthers, government “entitlement” programs became the mainstay, the courts granted more and more “rights” to criminals while (not surprisingly) crime began to skyrocket, and prayer was taken out of schools while single mother, out-of-wedlock births skyrocketed.

As Coulter summarized, “the South began going Republican about the same time as the Democrats went insane.”

Consider that during this time Thurgood Marshall was winning “case after case before the Supreme Court, including the 1954 case of Brown v. Board of Education” which eliminated ‘separate but equal’ in public schools, and President Eisenhower (a Republican) sent federal troops to enforce the decision.

Unfortunately, Democrats ruled the White House from January 1961 to January 1969 and the country fell apart! Instead of enforcing the law (which Republicans are very good at doing) the country suffered through racial murders, riots, marches, shootings, and people being attacked by dogs and sprayed with high pressure fire hoses.

It wasn’t until Nixon (a Republican) took over the presidency in 1969 that segregated schools were actually eliminated.

As Coulter wrote, “If Nixon would have been elected president in 1960, instead of Kennedy, we could have skipped the bloodshed of the civil rights marches and today we’d be celebrating Thurgood Marshall Day, rather than Martin Luther King Day.”

There are two very informative articles, written by Black authors, which address the disconnect between Blacks and the Republican Party. In Black Voters Aren’t ‘Brainwashed’ by Andra Gillespie and Why Courting the Black Vote Won’t Work by La Shawn Barber, the writers acknowledge that early civil rights activists depended on “federal” authority to enforce civil rights being denied them by local and state governments. So for many blacks, a reliance on the “federal” government causes them to lean towards Democrats.

But Blacks today need to recognize that local businesses and individual bus drivers did not force Blacks out of restaurants and to the back of the bus. Democrat politicians in government offices did!

In his book Stupid Black Men, Larry Elder noted that, “87 percent of black parents, ages twenty-six to thirty-five - those most likely to have
school-aged children - want (school) vouchers.” But just as Democrat
politicians stood in school doorways in the 1960s, Democrats stand in the doorway of vouchers and “school choice” today to keep Black children from attending quality schools.

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Dr. Ada Fisher is a physician and licensed teacher for secondary education in mathematics and science. She also ran as a Republican candidate for US Senate.

In her article Black Americans and the Republican Party, A Forgotten Legacy, she wrote that policies and programs like the New Deal as well as the War on Poverty not only “abolished individual responsibility,” these programs abolished “accountability for behavior and actions.”

As I outline in my own book You’re Hysterical, from a psychological perspective, the Black community suffers from a collective, overall adverse affect on its psyche. This paralyzing condition exists because far too many in the Black community focus incessantly on the “negative” aspects of history, and wholly dismiss the “positive” things that Americans of all colors and creeds have achieved in the past 200 years.

This is precisely why the Democratic Party has been so successful in courting the Black vote. Democrats don’t mind allowing Blacks to wallow in self-pity.

Republicans truly want Blacks to enjoy the opportunities that this country has to offer them.

As Mona Charen wrote in her book Do-gooders, while the Democratic Party “claims to be the champion of African Americans” it is actually “doing everything in its power to make America’s second largest minority group paranoid, distrustful, and seething with anger at their fellow Americans.”

As Juan Williams wrote in his book Enough, “(black leaders) have made it a staple of today’s black politics that black people remain defined as victims… when most black Americans do not live in poverty, are not in jail, and reign as the wealthiest black people in the world.”

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Elder wrote that, “It’s gotten to the point where we’ve now made affiliation with the Democratic Party an aspect of the black American identity. No matter who the Democratic nominee is, they get 90 percent of the black vote in every single election. If you are black and not a Democrat, it’s said that you’re not authentically black.”

As Elder continued, “Democrats, for their very preservation, need to cry ‘racism’ in order to keep blacks angry and keep their minds closed and eyes shut towards Republican policies.”

According to one study by the Joint Center for Political and Economic Studies, even during the 2008 Obama campaign, 32 percent of blacks indicated that their ideology was “conservative.” Varying studies show that as much as 13 percent of blacks identify as “conservative” or “extremely conservative,” and 19 percent identify as “religious right.” Despite all that, a mere 7 percent identify as Republican.

A 2000 National Opinion Poll showed that only 51 percent of young blacks (ages eighteen to twenty-five) considered themselves Democrat, 35 percent identified as Independent and 9 percent as Republican.

As Elder wrote, “this may provide an opening for the Republican Party, provided blacks obsess less about racism and more about politics and principals that lead to progress and prosperity.”

SUMMATION

In 1911 (exactly 100 years ago) Booker T. Washington wrote the following:

“There is (a) class of colored people who make a business of keeping the troubles, the wrongs, and the hardships of the Negro race before the public. Having learned that they are able to make a living out of their troubles, they have grown into the settled habit of advertising their wrongs – partly because they want sympathy and partly because it pays. Some of these people do not want the Negro to lose his grievances, because they do not want to lose their jobs… There is a certain class of race-problem solvers who don’t want the patient to get well, because as long as the disease holds out they have not only an easy means of making a living, but also an easy medium through which to make themselves prominent before the public.”

It is shameful that so many Blacks today still carry the pitiful mentality that Booker T. Washington warned us about!

The 1960s racist, bigoted, southern whites were Democrats. The children and grandchildren of those southern Democrats are Democrats themselves still today. Those of us in the South who have chosen to educate ourselves (and to think for ourselves) are Republicans because we acknowledge and appreciate the stance our party has always taken in support of freedom and liberty for all people!

Let’s face it! Democrats know full well that the very base of their party includes those who happen to be the least informed Americans among us. That base includes three basic categories of people: (1) welfare and food stamps recipients (i.e., single moms and strippers, as if there were much difference), (2) convicts, and (3) government employees. And yes, I said the least informed among us!

The major problems within the Black community involve: (1) too little focus on education, (2) young Black mothers having babies before marriage (often with multiple men), which creates criminals, who most often kill fellow Blacks, (3) favoring dependence on the government for subsistence over a solid work ethic, and (4) refusing to “call out” race-baiters who conjure up false accusations of racism.

As Armstrong Willliams wrote in, Republican Party must Rescue Blacks from the Democratic Plantation (07/15/10), “Republicans tell blacks to study hard, work hard, and don’t break the law. Democrats tell them ‘it’s not your fault and hand them free stuff.’”

Yes, far too many Blacks today remain on the Democratic Party Plantation. Far too many have been brainwashed, and far too many have been duped by the Democratic Party.

It is far past time that all of us “call out” the Black community itself and recognize that its problems are much too much the fault of the Black community itself. And, Blacks need to recognize that the Democratic Party helped put them there!

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A conservative marriage: The wife’s perspective, by Kelly Pounds (Guest Writer)

Kelly Pounds

One of the things that I love the most about my husband is the fact that he is not intimidated by my conservative beliefs, I can be a strong Conservative woman and still be the wife that I am supposed to be to him. I relish in the fact that he treats me like a true Lady, I enjoy the gentlemanly behavior and his chivalry.

I have watched the jaws drop of women in public places when I stop at the door and wait for him to open it, I have heard the mumblings such as “What a Bitch!” from these same women as I stand and wait at the door, and I catch the envious glances of their men (who are getting berated by their woman while they sit there.)

What these women do not realize is the fact that by allowing my husband to be a man I am securing my indefinite place in his world because he is taking care of me. Think about this for a moment. How can a husband feel respected, appreciated, or loved when they are the constant brunt of their wives’ negativity about everything?

When it comes to the home and relationships, women rule. Men live to make women happy so why is it that women live to make their men miserable? As Dr Laura Schlessinger so perfectly stated in her book The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands “How is it that so many women are angry with men in general yet expect to have a happy life married to one?”

My husband and I are both conservative in our beliefs but there are differences between he and I as a man and a woman but those differences complement each other.  I need him to be the man, so that I can be a true woman.

As Dr. Laura states in her book The Proper Care and Feeding of Marriage “Research shows that women still tend to prefer men who are breadwinners, whom they can call intellectually superior, and who can physically protect them. Women tend to respect more and be sexually attracted to men who can take care of them.”

I do not desire nor am I treated as his subordinate, but because I desire and allow him to be a real man, he treats me with more respect and love than most Liberal women will ever know mainly because they don’t allow their men to be real men.

My husband doesn’t want to compete with me, he wants to take care of me, and that is vitally important to every man’s self esteem. In the book The Flipside of Feminism the authors write that, “recognizing this (that men want to take care of a woman) doesn’t give men carte blanche to treat women as subordinate – and most men don’t do this, or want to do this. That’s a feminist scare tactic to convince women otherwise.”

Is our marriage all laughs and hugs all the time? NO! But let’s be real about what marriage is. All marriages have their ups and downs, but the trick is to stay focused on why you got married in the first place.  It is harder in today’s time to be married than in any other time in history. To be happily married in today’s time requires an atmosphere in the home and in the relationship that is beneficial to that goal.

There are natural difficulties in communication between men and women.  As Dr. Laura writes, “Women often complain that their husbands never talk about their feelings and the relationship, and that they won’t listen without giving advice. Men often complain that their wives talk incessantly about their feelings, are defensive when they try to give their opinion, and repeat themselves over and over and don’t seem to want to actually do anything about the problem – just talk about it… Both are correct.”

So isn’t it the responsibility of the “nurturer” of the family, the wife, to lead the role in creating this happy environment? This is easily done by focusing on the positive aspects of your spouse and verbalizing it to them with a smile; you can almost see their chest rise with pride because we as women, and the object of their affection, noticed something about them.

It goes right back to the old saying “treat others as you want to be treated!” In the real world of humans, women have an exceptional urge toward bonding, nesting, and nurturing. Men have an exceptional urge toward protecting, providing, and conquering. Men allow us to satisfy our urges, why is it that we, as women, deprive them of theirs?

Dr. Laura writes, “women need to better appreciate the magnitude of their power and influence over men, and not misuse or abuse it.”

Conservative women, like myself, do not think like Liberal women, we believe in personal responsibility, individual liberty, and traditional American values. We believe in the empowerment of the individual to solve problems. We do not believe in the “I’m the victim” scheme.

I’ll end with this profound statement by Ann Coulter: “The hatred for a conservative woman is so much deeper than the hatred for a conservative man.” It is because “women are the ones who pass down moral tradition and care about moral issues.”

So, women, get back to the basics of your marriage and stop worrying about all the peripheral crap, take care of your home front first, take care of your husband first; you will be surprised at how much of your spouse you have missed and how much you will see an improvement in your marriage. It’s a really good feeling to fall in love with your husband over and over again!

Kelly Pounds works in Hospitality, Travel and Tourism with Courtesy Management and resides with her husband, Keith, in Columbia, SC.
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Are women more violent than men?

You're hysterical! How feminine hysteria has eliminated the male role in modern society

In a recent discussion on Domestic Violence (DV), a female colleague of mine was adamant that “the majority of victims are women.” She insisted that I should “do a little more research on the stats of domestic violence.”

As she is a student of criminal justice, and because next month (October) is Domestic Violence Awareness Month, I’ve decided to take her advice.

First and foremost, many of us realize that the discussion of DV has become similar to that of “racism.” Men are falsely accused of violence against women with the same ridiculous, unfounded assaults that whites suffer in regards to racism in the 21st century. Feminists and race-baiters use the same tactics!

I’ll address two of the main controversies surrounding DV: (1) Are men more violent than women?, and (2) When women do become violent, is it simply self defense?

ARE MEN MORE VIOLENT THAN WOMEN?

According to the National Fathers’ Resource Center, studies show that 50 percent or more of Domestic Violence is perpetuated by women.

In Psychology of Women Quarterly, Irene Hanson Frieze says that, “Research indicates that women can be just as violent as their partners.”

Don Dutton from the University of British Columbia notes that “Recent evidence from the best designed studies indicates that intimate partner violence is committed by both genders with often equal consequences.”

A 2006 issue of Journal of Family Psychology tells us that “differences were observed in the rates of male and female partner violence, with female violence occurring more frequently.”

A 2007 survey of young adults, sponsored by the U.S. Centers for Disease Control, found that 71 percent of the instigators in nonreciprocal partner violence were women.

Mark Mahnkey, director of Public Policy for the Washington Civil Rights Council and former faculty of Washington State University, insists that, “nearly 200 scientific studies point to one simple conclusion: Women are at least as likely as men to engage in partner aggression.”

Suzanne Steinmetz, a widely know expert on domestic violence, agrees that the rate at which men are victimized by domestic violence was similar to the rate for women.

In her book “Prone to Violence,” Erin Pizzey, founder of the modern woman’s shelter movement, wrote that 60 percent of women in shelters were as violent, or more violent, than their male partners.

So how’s that for research?

The Psychology of Management, by Keith Pounds

In his article, Family Violence in America; The Truth about Domestic Violence and Child Abuse, Stephen Baskerville, Ph.D., wrote that family violence is (often) “closely connected with family dissolution and with disputes over child custody.”

As Marc Rosenthal noted in his article “Respecting Accuracy in Domestic Violence” in a 2005 issue of the Illinois Bar Journal, false accusations  in restraining orders have become part of “the gamesmanship of divorce.”

Restraining orders are considered “a tactical legal maneuver familiar to all family court attorneys as a way to obtain an order of contempt and unfairly increase the leverage of one side,” (overwhelmingly in favor
of the mother).

The gamesmanship, of course, refers to the unfair advantage against fathers during child custody cases. As the National Fathers’ Resource Center notes, “women know, and are often advised by their attorney, that if they want to get custody of the children, they had better nail dad with some sort of domestic violence accusation.”

This is precisely why the term “Domestic Violence industry” is a familiar one within the legal community. And it is no wonder when Clerks of Court offices, social services agencies, and Child Protective Service offices are composed almost exclusively of women.

In my earlier article Being a victim: Rape, racism, domestic violence and other lies and falsehoods, I detail several credible studies which show that even 50% of rape allegations are found to be false.

Of course, the overall point is that there is overwhelming evidence that women can often be very prone to lie in cases of rape, DV and other social issues. As those lies can involve the jailing of men, we can certainly consider these lies to be forms of female violence.

As Mahnkey wrote, “If the domestic violence industry really wanted to prevent harm, they would support legislation to prosecute false accusations.” But, what we find is the opposite. They want to silence those of us who seek genuine debate. They hate men and could care less about justice.

We are told that DV is a result of “male aggression” or a man’s desire to “subjugate” women. But, according to Suzana Rose, PhD., of the
National Violence Against Women Prevention Center, University of Missouri at St. Louis, among Lesbian couples, “violence appears to be about as common as among heterosexual couples.”

If DV is a “male construct,” why is it so prevalent in Lesbian relationships where there is no man involved?

Another important point is that, according to national Child Protective Service agency statistics, mothers are much more prone to abuse and
neglect their children than are fathers.

So, women commit violence against their children more than men, and they engage in violence in Lesbian relationships. So why is it so hard to believe that they can abuse their husbands? While it is uncomfortable to consider, statistics suggest that it may actually be surprising to find a woman who doesn’t abuse her loved ones!

WHEN WOMEN DO BECOME VIOLENT, IS IT SIMPLY SELF-DEFENSE?

This accusation is particularly disturbing. What it really suggests is that women should be given a “free pass” when they attack men. It is as ridiculous as saying that protestors in minority neighborhoods are
justified when they destroy property and attack police. It suggests that some groups can’t abide by the rule of law because they aren’t as civilized as the rest of us. That is a horrible message for children.

As attorney Maury D. Beaulier wrote in Fighting False Allegations of Domestic Abuse, “the problem is often compounded for men who are often larger than women and perceived as more aggressive or stronger based on broad societal generalizations.”

These “societal generalizations” should not be taken lightly, as they can often distort our perception of things. As an example, if a hysterical 100-pound wife violently attacks her 180-pound husband, she is very likely to suffer bruises and scrapes even if the man only defends himself.

The hysterical wife can then accuse her husband of attacking her, and it will look like a legitimate claim because she will be the one with more bruises, even though she was the aggressor.

In my article Domestic violence, revisited: More effects of our “culture of victimhood” I suggest that many so-called DV “victims” are actually more responsible for their abuse than we have been willing to admit. Pizzey (the former battered women’s shelter advocate) might agree with  my assertion as she suggests that many battered women are psychologically drawn to abusive relationships.

SUMMATION

I want to make it clear that I strongly oppose male violence against women! But, I am balanced in my thoughts of justice and equality because I also oppose female violence against men!

Of course, this research and these statistics don’t apply to all women, but because they apply to so many, it is time we begin to recognize the likelihood of women to become violent themselves, and accept that DV is not strictly a male construct.

We are told that far too many women endure DV because they have “nowhere else to go.” To suggest that a woman must “put up with it” is a
terrible, terrible message to send to young girls!

I firmly believe that very many of these women suffer from a psychological condition which draws them to abusive relationships, and I believe that (because of their psychological condition) they are actually abusive themselves. As with anyone else who commits a crime, I believe they should be prosecuted, and if found guilt, they should be thrown in jail.

I understand that many people today believe the “feminist” view of domestic violence because they believe what they are spoon-fed by the
mainstream media. I also understand that many of us simply aren’t very educated on these issues, or we choose to read, study and believe only those things which agree with our pre-conceived notions.

Another problem is that men of the last few decades have been taught that if you stand up and address feminist lies and falsehoods you will be labeled “chauvinist” or “sexist” or “womanizer.” But, I am not intimidated by disrespectful, loud-mouthed, opportunistic women, as many other men are today.

Many of us have come to recognize that when women play the “gender card” they are playing on our good nature as decent human beings. They are no different than the Al Sharpton’s and Jesse Jackson’s who use the “race card” to avoid intellectual debate and rigor.

In both cases, genuine discussion of the issue is not allowed as both groups are despicable liars, thieves and con artists, and they could care less about actual justice or equality. Their feministic perspectives and continuing male-bashing are narcissistic and childish.

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